In (less than) 10 days I will be celebrating my birthday. I will be able to say that I’m in my late twenties and I’m excited and pensive. Because this birthday will be spent differently from the one last year and from any other before. I’m looking forward to it and I’m also aware that it means I’m taking a step further into grown woman-dom. Which got me thinking…
I got this impression that as you get older, as a woman, you eventually stop giving a damn about what society thinks of you, you become more accepting of your self and fall more in love with who you are. This is something I have been looking forward to. So much so that when I wanted to pull myself out of my moments of weakness and insecurity, I’d say that I’m channeling my 40-yr-old self (This is the age I see toted as the one of ‘true acceptance’). My 40-yr-old self was experienced, confident and thick skinned when necessary, wise enough to know when to be vulnerable and best of all, aware of and in love with all the flaws and beauty of me. I’d try to imagine what that version of myself would say/do in situations that I felt were meant to break me and I was looking forward to the day I’d find that I have become that version of myself. And then it hit me— WHY WAIT? Why do I need to see the years leading up to 40 as the in-between years, as the ones to just get through? Why can’t I, equipped with the knowledge gained from listening to those who came before me, work on loving myself wholly now?
So I decided that that was exactly what I was going to do. It doesn’t make sense to me to wait until society tells me that I’m not as lovable because I’m not young and fresh to decide that I won’t let society dictate the quality and method of my self-love. Why wait until they tell me that I don’t fit into their box to realize that I want no part of being caged in by them.
This brings me to my message today- Self-love: Do it now. Whatever it means to you to take care of yourself, to love yourself down to your very core, do it now.
I get that not all of us are ready to love our whole selves fully and that it’s not an overnight process. After all, it didn’t take one night for us to find ourselves difficult to love. But the sooner we find the value of and begin to take part in unapologetic self-love, the better off we’ll all be.
Don’t get me wrong, I have my moments still where I falter, when I doubt myself but I love the hell out of me during the moments when I’m not feeling my best. And this is crucial to do. We have to know that it is ok to not be our best self all the time. It is ok to stumble and to question we you are. Just know that while we divert from our optimal states of being, it is imperative that we coat ourselves in love while we’re going through it.
It’s easy to find favour in a perfect thing but to see a thing blemished or broken and find worth in it as if it were not, that is love.
Love on yourselves. You’re worth it!
Until next post!
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